I'm sick over the loss of something that was quite important and has been utterly diluted by a society fixated on the important concepts of equal rights for women.
There is no question that gender should not be the consideration for a job or the right to join an organization that has traditionally led to advancement and advantage.
There is advantage in diversity in terms of new thinking and productive direction for the old traditional clubs devoted to community service. sport, and general community good..
It's necessary to establish upfront that any organization that devotes itself to good causes that support good works and excludes women and minorities merely out of simple small mindedness should not exist in a country that idealizes diversity. That issue has been, and will continue to be dealt with.
That's not the central issue here.
Men over the age of 55 have a very different and unmet need.
When a man reaches the golden age somewhere between 55 and 57 he begins to finally realize he is mortal. He begins to understand that he has far less life ahead than behind. He begins to question himself and how he has led his life to that point. He is often confused. Frequently criticized for his
age and his outlook by those who have little true understanding and are making assumptions that are unfounded.
While some may be publically revered for their accomplishments and wisdom in an age where pundits are beginning to call 50 the new 40, it's a mockery at it's heart to deny that men over the age of 55 will be served well by a general approach as in the founding of senior centers throughout the country.
Older men require the opportunity to bond as friends in common,, to sit around a poker table, or shoot pool, or play a round of golf or share a drink without interruption or interference. Without unnecessary discussion. Without unending questions from females who will never truly understand, but after reflection may relent.
That is what this blog is about.
Over the next few months, perhaps years, we will explore the need to recognize that society is best served by allowing a place where older men can socialize. What shape that might take will depend upon those who understand the need and are willing to face it and address it without fear armed with a clear understanding that this issue is not about race, or religion. The challenge here is finding a way to address the need without falling prey to a culture that may view the effort as threatening.
